Debunking [some] Misconceptions About Being a Sex Worker

The world of being a Sex Worker is one that often gets overshadowed by misconceptions, stereotypes and let’s face it: people who don’t know what they’re on about. I don’t think people who study/research Sex Workers or guys who watched one documentary about Sex Work are exactly ‘wells of information’ about the subject.

Doing Sex Work is not just about intimacy or sex; it's a profession that is multifaceted.
In this blog post, I will try to demystify the common person’s misconceptions surrounding Sex Work and provide a more accurate understanding of this important profession from my perspective!

Misconception #1: It's Just a Fancy Way to Get to a Destination

One of the most prevalent misconceptions about being a Companion is that it's a simple and straightforward job that involves little more than getting someone off.

I mean sure, maybe sometimes? In reality, it can be pretty complex.
Apart from the NPCs you (and I) have met, you might agree with me that everyone is different. From that diversity comes many desires, different stories, journeys and paths we can take.

Choose your own Adventure > Get me there as quick as possible

Apart from the NPCs you (and I) have met, you might agree with me that everyone is different.

Misconception #2: It's an Easy Job 

Another misconception is that being a Companion is an easy job.
In reality, the physical and emotional demands of the job can be taxing, not to mention pretty lonely. Combine marketing manager, Safety Consultant, Masseuse, Counsellor, Stakeholder Engagement and Strategy Advisor all into one and you might scratch the surface of what a Companion might get up to.

Misconception #3: It's Not a Legitimate Career

Some people believe that becoming a Sex Worker is not a legitimate or respectable career choice.
This misconception couldn't be further from the truth and is steeped in work-pilled ideology (see also: Late Capitalism) archaic views of the body and productivity.

Men On the Internet (MOI) love to say things like ‘your parents must be proud’ as if to imply that your sole existence once you exit the womb is to appease your filial ties and get a ‘respectable job.’ No thanks, Chad. If all your ties to your identity are steeped in your ability to produce work for someone, I’m not sure what to tell you. Except for:

Sex Work is Work homie.

Misconception #4: It's Only for Men’s Needs

There is a common stereotype that Sex Workers are only for men.
While it's true that there are an ocean of men wasting our time, there is no gender restriction in this line of work.
People of all genders and lived experience can and do excel in this profession.
Diversity within the industry should be encouraged  and celebrated.

Conclusion

It's important to dispel and challenge misconceptions surrounding the profession of being a Sex Worker/ Companion/Provider - hey, use any lingo you want to if it relates to your work ;)
Sex Work  is a legitimate, valuable, and respected field that requires a deep understanding of people, safety, effective communication skills, and a commitment to self care.

Sex Workers play a crucial role in helping people play, discover new things, revive their zest for life, explore their bodies, sexuality, reduce stress and improve their overall quality of life. Truly the list goes on!

By debunking these misconceptions, we can do better and maybe not jump to uninformed conclusions.